Social Situations

Hey everyone,

I have so much to share on so many topics, I feel overwhelmed when I think about trying to put it on paper.  I just wish I could have somebody follow me around 24/7 with a  video camera and then throw the good stuff up on YouTube, LOL

Anyways, I will try to share my experiences/thoughts in regards to social situations with a host of posts on the topic.  I think it is most important to point out that what I have to share comes from a place of principles and having a certain mindset, which I am learning through my NVC studies.  Succeeding in social situations has more to do with what’s going on in my head, than the actual words that come out of my mouth.  It’s about where my consciousness is during the conversation.  If it’s not on feelings and needs, I have missed the boat.

So, it’s all about being present with my own feelings and needs first, then the feelings and needs of the people involved.

Not only is every social situation unique, but each conversation at that specific party or what ever is different.  So, back to principles which work in a dynamic universe.

Specific tip:  In my experience 99% of the people inquiring about my lifestyle are not really interested in learning, they are interested in making sure what they are doing is OK. 

There is a whole host of feelings they could be feeling and they are most likely needing to know that they are still respected.  Or their need for inclusion might be threatened by me simply living a different lifestyle then them.  There is a whole host of possibilities, the point is that if I have my consciousness on what they might be feeling and needing and my desire is to connect with them, then social situations become fun, just like they should be:)  It is also, crucial for me to remember that I can’t cause anybody to be happy or sad or mad, I can only stimulate things in them. 

Well, that’s all I got for today.  If you read or listen to NVC material all that is written above will be expressed more eloquently and make more sense, I guarantee it.

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Robby